| Foreword |
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| Acknowledgments |
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| Introduction |
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The Human Experience of Shame |
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A Psychological Viewpoint on Compassion and Shame |
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A Christian Viewpoint on Compassion and Shame |
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4 | (1) |
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5 | (1) |
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A Theoretical Model for Understanding the Problem and Solution |
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6 | (1) |
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Christian Meditation for Compassion: A Four-Step Approach |
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The Goals and Techniques in this Workbook |
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9 | (1) |
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9 | (1) |
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A Mixture of "Integration," "Christian Psychology," and Evangelical Perspectives |
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10 | (1) |
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10 | (2) |
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12 | (1) |
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12 | (3) |
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1 Shame, Negative Self-Judgments, and the Fall of Humankind |
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15 | (1) |
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Denning Shame: Psychological and Christian Perspectives |
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15 | (2) |
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Shame and "Missing the Mark" in the Christian Tradition |
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17 | (1) |
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18 | (1) |
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Your First Experience of Shame: An Exercise |
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19 | (1) |
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Shame-Proneness in the Bible |
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20 | (1) |
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Repetitive Negative Thinking and Shame |
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20 | (1) |
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The Apostle Paul and Christian Thinking: Focusing on "Things Above" |
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21 | (1) |
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The Puritans and Christian Thinking: Cultivating "Heavenly-Mindedness" |
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21 | (1) |
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What Do You Think About Throughout Your Day?: An Exercise |
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22 | (1) |
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Emotion Regulation: The "Danger," "Drive," and "Contentment" Systems |
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23 | (1) |
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The Three Traveling Companions: Nicknamed "Danger," "Drive," and "Contentment" |
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24 | (1) |
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A Christian View of the God-Given "Danger," "Drive," and "Contentment" Systems |
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25 | (2) |
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Getting to Know Your Three Systems: An Exercise |
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27 | (1) |
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Mindfulness Versus Contemplation: Focusing on the "Self" or God to Access Compassion? |
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28 | (1) |
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Contemplation and the "Contentment" System: An Exercise |
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29 | (2) |
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The "Danger," "Drive," and "Contentment" Systems in the Real World: A Case Example |
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31 | (1) |
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31 | (1) |
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32 | (3) |
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2 Attachment to Cod and the "Contentment" System |
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35 | (22) |
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35 | (1) |
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Attachment Theory: Basic Concepts |
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36 | (2) |
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The Three Phases of the Attachment System: Safety as the Central Goal |
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38 | (1) |
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Understanding Attachment Styles: An Exercise |
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39 | (2) |
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The Neurobiology of Attachment |
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41 | (1) |
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Attachment, Compassion, and the "Contentment" System |
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42 | (1) |
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God Attachment: Reaching for the "Stronger and Wiser" Other |
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42 | (2) |
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44 | (1) |
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God Attachment and Compassion |
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45 | (1) |
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A Christian View of Secure God Attachment and the "Contentment" System |
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45 | (1) |
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God Concept Versus Image: An Exercise |
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46 | (1) |
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Understanding Your Attachment Style with God: An Exercise |
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47 | (1) |
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Mary and the "Contentment" System: A Biblical Example |
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48 | (2) |
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Jesus and the "Danger," "Drive," and "Contentment" Systems: A Biblical Perspective |
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50 | (1) |
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Sitting at Jesus' Feet: An Exercise |
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50 | (1) |
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Safety with God: An Exercise |
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51 | (1) |
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Developing "Contentment" with God: A Case Example |
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52 | (1) |
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52 | (1) |
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53 | (4) |
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3 Compassion, "Contentment," and a Deeper Relationship with Cod for Shame and Negative Self-Judgments |
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57 | (18) |
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57 | (1) |
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Defining Compassion Within Psychology |
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58 | (1) |
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Defining Compassion Within Christianity |
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58 | (1) |
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God Clothed Adam and Eve: A Biblical Example of Compassion |
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59 | (1) |
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Jesus' Earthly Mission: A Biblical Example of Compassion |
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59 | (1) |
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The "Compassionate Self" Versus the "New Self" Found in Christ |
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60 | (1) |
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The "New Self" Found in Christ: An Exercise |
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61 | (1) |
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Compassion, "Contentment," Mindfulness and Loving-Kindness Meditations and Shame |
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62 | (1) |
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Compassion, "Contentment," and Christian Meditation for Shame |
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63 | (1) |
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Christian Meditation: "Contentment" as the "Rare Jewel" |
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64 | (1) |
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The Relationship Between Love, Mercy, Grace, and Shame |
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65 | (1) |
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Personal Experiences of God's Love, Compassion, Mercy, and Grace: An Exercise |
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66 | (1) |
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A Compassion-Based Approach: Next Steps |
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67 | (1) |
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A Compassion-Based Approach: The Strategy |
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67 | (1) |
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A Compassion-Based Approach: The Goals |
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68 | (2) |
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A Compassion-Based Approach: The Skills |
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68 | (1) |
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A Compassion-Based Approach: Turning to Psychological Science |
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69 | (1) |
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A Compassion-Based Approach: Turning to the Christian Tradition |
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69 | (1) |
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Personal Goals for the Workbook: An Exercise |
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70 | (1) |
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Compassion in Action: A Case Example |
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70 | (1) |
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71 | (1) |
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72 | (3) |
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4 Thinking with Compassion |
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75 | (20) |
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75 | (1) |
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Thinking with Compassion: Psychological and Christian Perspectives |
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75 | (2) |
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The God Image Automatic Thought Record: An Exercise |
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77 | (2) |
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Identifying and Challenging Your Core Beliefs: An Exercise |
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79 | (2) |
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Thinking and the "Limited Capacity Channel": An Exercise |
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81 | (1) |
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Thinking and Metacognitive Awareness |
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81 | (1) |
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Cognitive Fusion: Getting "Hooked" by Repetitive Negative Thinking |
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82 | (1) |
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Defusion: Watching Your Thinking |
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82 | (1) |
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Watching Your Thinking with Jesus: An Exercise |
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83 | (1) |
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Thinking with Compassion: A Journaling Exercise |
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84 | (1) |
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Mind Wandering: Psychological and Christian Perspectives |
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85 | (1) |
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Calming and Focusing the Mind with a Christian Mantra: The Antidote to Mind Wandering |
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85 | (1) |
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Kataphatic Meditation Within Protestant Spirituality: Refocusing a Wandering Mind |
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86 | (1) |
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Puritan Meditation: An Eight-Step Process |
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87 | (1) |
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Puritan Meditation: An Exercise |
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87 | (1) |
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The Valley of Vision: An Exercise |
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88 | (1) |
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Reciting the Psalms Within Desert Spirituality: Filling the Mind with God's Promises |
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89 | (1) |
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Reciting the Psalms: An Exercise |
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89 | (1) |
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Lectio Divina Within Medieval Spirituality: Divine Reading for Self-Criticism |
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90 | (1) |
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Divine Reading: An Exercise |
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91 | (1) |
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"Father, Forgive Them": Jesus' Example of Thinking with Compassion Towards Others |
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91 | (1) |
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Thinking with Compassion: A Case Example |
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92 | (1) |
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92 | (1) |
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93 | (2) |
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5 Feeling with Compassion |
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95 | (26) |
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95 | (1) |
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Accepting Painful Feelings: Perspectives from Psychology and Christianity |
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95 | (3) |
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Strategies for Accepting Emotional Pain: Psychological and Christian Perspectives |
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98 | (3) |
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Accepting Pain: An Exercise |
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101 | (1) |
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Writing a Lament to God: An Exercise |
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102 | (1) |
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Developing Positive Emotions: Perspectives from Psychology and Christianity |
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103 | (2) |
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"Watchfulness" and the "Oil of Gladness": An Exercise |
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105 | (1) |
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The "Game of Minutes": An Exercise |
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106 | (1) |
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Compassion and "Loving-Kindness": A Brief Review |
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107 | (1) |
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The "True Self" and "Compassionate Self": Jesus in the Desert |
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107 | (2) |
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Shifting from the "False" to the "True" Self: An Exercise |
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109 | (1) |
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Loving-Kindness with God: An Exercise |
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109 | (1) |
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Receiving a Letter from God: An Exercise |
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110 | (1) |
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Worshiping God by Singing to Him: An Exercise |
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111 | (1) |
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The Cloud of Unknowing: Reaching for God in Love |
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112 | (2) |
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Memory, Intellect, and the Will: Knowledge Versus Love |
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114 | (1) |
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Reaching for God in Love: An Exercise |
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114 | (1) |
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Weeping with Jesus: An Exercise |
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115 | (1) |
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Feeling with Compassion: A Case Example |
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116 | (1) |
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117 | (1) |
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117 | (4) |
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6 Behaving with Compassion |
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121 | (18) |
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121 | (1) |
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The Proverbial Map: Living Life Based on a Set of Values |
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121 | (1) |
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The Christian Version of Values: Biblical Virtues |
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122 | (1) |
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"Detachment" as a Christian Virtue: Following Jesus with Compassion |
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123 | (1) |
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Ignatian Spirituality and the Daily Examen: Reflecting on the Theological Virtues |
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123 | (1) |
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The Daily Examen: An Exercise |
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124 | (1) |
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Moving from the Self to Others: Psychological and Christian Perspectives |
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125 | (1) |
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Protestant Spirituality and Self-Denial |
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125 | (1) |
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Kataphatic Meditation: An Exercise |
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126 | (1) |
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Medieval Spirituality and Self-Forgetfulness |
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127 | (1) |
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Desert Spirituality and Self-Denial |
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128 | (1) |
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Kenosis, Centering Prayer, and Action |
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129 | (1) |
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Loving Like Jesus: A Journaling Exercise |
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130 | (1) |
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Balancing "Being" and "Doing": Psychological and Christian Perspectives |
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130 | (1) |
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A Secure Attachment to God and Virtuous Living |
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131 | (1) |
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Embodied: Treating the Body with Compassion |
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132 | (1) |
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Walking with God: An Exercise |
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133 | (1) |
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Desert Spirituality, Tempting Thoughts, Virtues, and "Opposite Action" |
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133 | (1) |
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Behaving with Compassion: A Plan of Action |
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134 | (1) |
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Behaving with Compassion: A Case Example |
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134 | (1) |
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135 | (1) |
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135 | (4) |
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7 Attending and Imagining with Compassion |
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139 | (16) |
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139 | (1) |
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The Importance of the Breath: Psychological and Christian Perspectives |
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140 | (1) |
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"Giving and Taking": A Compassion-Based Approach |
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140 | (1) |
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Breathing with Jesus: An Exercise |
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141 | (1) |
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The Body Scan: Attending to the Body |
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142 | (1) |
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The Body Scan for Christians: Breathing in God's Love, Mercy, and Grace |
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142 | (1) |
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The Body Scan for Christians: An Exercise |
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142 | (1) |
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The Jesus Prayer Within the Bible |
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143 | (1) |
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The Jesus Prayer Within Orthodox Spirituality: A Brief History |
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143 | (1) |
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The Jesus Prayer: An Exercise |
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144 | (1) |
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Breath Prayers in the Christian Tradition |
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145 | (1) |
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Designing Your Own Breath Prayers: An Exercise |
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145 | (1) |
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"Lord, Save Me": Crying Out to God in the Midst of Pain |
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146 | (1) |
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The Practice of the Presence of God with Brother Lawrence |
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146 | (1) |
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Practicing God's Presence: An Exercise |
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147 | (1) |
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Ignatian Spirituality and the "Prayer of the Senses" |
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148 | (1) |
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The "Prayer of the Senses": An Exercise |
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148 | (1) |
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Visualizing with Compassion: Psychological and Christian Perspectives |
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149 | (1) |
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Floating on the Ark with Compassion: An Exercise |
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150 | (1) |
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The Lost Son: An Exercise |
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151 | (1) |
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The "Mystery of the Incarnation": An Exercise |
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152 | (1) |
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152 | (1) |
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153 | (2) |
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