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Part One Setting the scene |
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P1.1 Introducing the Roadmap |
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P1.2 What else is in this Workbook? |
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P1.3 Why this Workbook on this subject? |
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P1.4 Based on `Post-Cult Counselling' |
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6 | (1) |
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7 | (1) |
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P1.6 Navigating the Workbook |
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P1.7 Telling your story into the Workbook |
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P1.8 Challenges and triggers |
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11 | (1) |
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P1.9 If the Milestones don't seem to fit |
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P1.10 All coercive, cultic and spiritually abusive settings |
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11 | (1) |
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12 | (1) |
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P1.12 Others' stories to help you recognise yours |
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12 | (1) |
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P1.13 Take your time and pace yourself |
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13 | (1) |
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P1.14 A word about emotions |
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13 | (1) |
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P1.15 What if you need support? |
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14 | (1) |
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P1.16 What does recovery look like? |
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14 | (1) |
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P1.17 Your chosen destination |
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15 | (4) |
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19 | (8) |
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20 | (1) |
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21 | (2) |
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P2.3 Leaving -- in stages |
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23 | (2) |
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25 | (2) |
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Part Three Preparing for the journey |
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27 | (20) |
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P3.1 Looking after yourself |
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27 | (9) |
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P3.2 Consider your starting point before you set off |
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36 | (11) |
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Part Four The Walking Free journey |
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47 | (270) |
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Region 1 Leave physically so you can begin to recover psychologically |
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49 | (2) |
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Milestone 1 Leaving physically |
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51 | (1) |
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M1.1 If you have not left physically or have returned |
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52 | (1) |
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M1.2 What leaving looks like |
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52 | (3) |
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M1.3 Describing your experience of leaving |
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55 | (1) |
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M1.4 Culture shock and feelings about leaving |
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56 | (1) |
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M1.5 Finding your `tribe' |
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57 | (1) |
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M1.6 Beware of cult hopping |
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58 | (1) |
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M1.7 Decision-making -- on leaving or at any time |
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59 | (4) |
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Region 2 Leaving psychologically |
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63 | (2) |
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Milestone 2 Face your doubts |
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65 | (1) |
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65 | (1) |
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M2.2 Experiences of doubt as a member |
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66 | (1) |
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M2.3 Remembering your doubts as a member |
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67 | (2) |
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M2.4 Facing doubts about leaving |
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69 | (2) |
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Milestone 3 Diagnose your group or relationship |
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71 | (1) |
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M3.1 Types of groups and relationships included |
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71 | (1) |
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M3.2 Continuum of `safe enough' to abusive |
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72 | (1) |
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73 | (3) |
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M3.4 Spiritual or religious abuse |
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76 | (2) |
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M3.5 What is coercive control? |
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78 | (2) |
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M3.6 Where did your cultic setting sit on the continuum? |
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80 | (1) |
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M3.7 What is the overall diagnosis of your group or relationship? |
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80 | (3) |
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Milestone 4 How confluent were you? |
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83 | (2) |
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M4.2 The start of confluence - reciprocity and the favour |
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85 | (2) |
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M4.3 Living in confluence |
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87 | (4) |
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Milestone 5 Introjects, critical thinking and phobias |
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91 | (1) |
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M5.1 What is an introject? |
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91 | (10) |
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101 | (4) |
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M5.3 When introjects become phobias |
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105 | (6) |
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111 | (2) |
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M6.1 Revisiting the pseudo-identity |
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113 | (2) |
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M6.2 Developing a `mask' after leaving |
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115 | (1) |
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M6.3 Building our authentic identity |
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115 | (3) |
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M6.4 Identity and the generations |
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118 | (1) |
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M6.5 Working through identity |
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119 | (12) |
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Milestone 7 Understanding traumatic stress |
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131 | (3) |
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M7.1 Managing expectations |
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134 | (1) |
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M7.2 Responses to trauma - fight, flight, freeze and submit |
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134 | (2) |
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M7.3 `Big T' traumas and `small f traumas' |
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136 | (5) |
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141 | (3) |
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M7.5 Responses - the zones explained |
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144 | (4) |
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M7.6 Responses - zone shifts and unconscious awareness |
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148 | (4) |
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M7.7 Memories, symptoms and pattern matches |
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152 | (5) |
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M7.8 Recovery: using perception -- the `noticing brain' |
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157 | (3) |
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M7.9 Recovery: letting your body know you are now safe |
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160 | (1) |
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Milestone 8 Boundary-setting assertive anger -- and rage |
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161 | (1) |
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161 | (3) |
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M8.2 Healthy boundary-setting assertive anger |
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164 | (1) |
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M8.3 Anger -- negative connotations, loaded language and introjects |
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165 | (3) |
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168 | (5) |
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173 | (1) |
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173 | (4) |
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Milestone 9 Healthy self-love |
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177 | (1) |
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M9.1 The myth of Narcissus and Echo |
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178 | (1) |
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M9.2 The continuum of self-love |
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178 | (1) |
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M9.3 Unhealthy excess of self-love -- narcissism |
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179 | (1) |
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M9.4 Unhealthy lack of self-love -- echoism |
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179 | (1) |
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M9.5 Echoing the cultic setting's narcissism |
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179 | (2) |
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181 | (1) |
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182 | (7) |
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Milestone 10 Thought reform |
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189 | (1) |
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189 | (3) |
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192 | (12) |
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M10.2 Mystical manipulation |
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204 | (7) |
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211 | (6) |
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217 | (5) |
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222 | (4) |
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M10.6 Loading the language |
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226 | (5) |
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M10.7 Doctrine over person |
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231 | (3) |
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M10.8 Dispensing of existence |
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234 | (5) |
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Milestone 11 Recognising other controlling dynamics |
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239 | (1) |
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239 | (2) |
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M11.2 Cognitive dissonance |
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241 | (3) |
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244 | (3) |
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Milestone 12 Unmasking the leader |
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247 | (1) |
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M12.1 The human need for authority |
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248 | (1) |
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M12.2 Non-abusive leaders |
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249 | (2) |
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M12.3 The cultic leader -- different categories |
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251 | (5) |
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M12.4 Understanding and unmasking the leader |
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256 | (3) |
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M12.5 The structure of your group or relationship |
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259 | (2) |
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M12.6 Unmasking your leader |
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261 | (8) |
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Region 3 Heal emotionally |
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269 | (2) |
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Milestone 13 Emotional healing |
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271 | (1) |
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M13.1 Your emotions matter |
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271 | (2) |
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M13.2 What happens to emotions in a cultic setting? |
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273 | (7) |
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M13.3 Coping with emotions after leaving |
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280 | (2) |
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M13.4 Learning to self-regulate |
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282 | (3) |
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M13.5 Face and move through emotions |
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285 | (2) |
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M13.6 Letting ourselves (and others) off the hook |
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287 | (4) |
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291 | (4) |
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295 | (2) |
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297 | (1) |
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M14.1 Reflections on what you learned -- post-traumatic growth |
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297 | (11) |
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M14.2 Reflections on your initial focus and baggage |
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308 | (2) |
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M14.3 Writing your life story |
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310 | (1) |
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310 | (1) |
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Milestone 15 Moving on and Walking Free! |
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311 | (2) |
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313 | (4) |
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Part Five Seeking therapy |
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317 | (8) |
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317 | (1) |
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318 | (1) |
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P5.3 Theoretical approaches |
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318 | (1) |
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P5.4 Challenge introjects about therapy |
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319 | (2) |
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P5.5 Choosing a therapist and keeping safe |
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321 | (2) |
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P5.6 Becoming a therapist |
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323 | (2) |
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Part Six Advice for therapists |
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325 | (8) |
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P6.1 Relational psychoeducation |
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326 | (1) |
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P6.2 Psychoeducational issues |
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326 | (3) |
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329 | (2) |
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331 | (2) |
| References |
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333 | (4) |
| Index |
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Rohkem infot Taylor & Francis e-raamatute kohta