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Walking Free from the Trauma of Coercive, Cultic and Spiritual Abuse: A Workbook for Recovery and Growth [Pehme köide]

  • Formaat: Paperback / softback, 339 pages, kõrgus x laius: 297x210 mm, kaal: 909 g, 81 Halftones, black and white; 81 Illustrations, black and white
  • Ilmumisaeg: 23-May-2023
  • Kirjastus: Routledge
  • ISBN-10: 1032305878
  • ISBN-13: 9781032305875
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  • Formaat: Paperback / softback, 339 pages, kõrgus x laius: 297x210 mm, kaal: 909 g, 81 Halftones, black and white; 81 Illustrations, black and white
  • Ilmumisaeg: 23-May-2023
  • Kirjastus: Routledge
  • ISBN-10: 1032305878
  • ISBN-13: 9781032305875
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This is an interactive self-help workbook and psychological road map to enable survivors of coercive, cultic and spiritual abuse to find healing, recovery and growth.



This is an interactive self-help workbook and psychological road map to enable survivors of coercive, cultic and spiritual abuse to find healing, recovery and growth.

This book provides a comprehensive guide to recovery, based on a tested model of post-cult counselling, and years of research and clinical experience. It is designed to help survivors of diverse abusive settings, including religious and spiritual, political, gangs, business, therapy and wellness and one-on-one relationships. The reader follows a beautifully illustrated journey through four Phases of recovery and growth, one Milestone at a time, to make sense of what has happened to them, learn how to walk free from psychological control and find resources for healing. The author includes stories from her own experience, detailing her path towards recovery and how she learned to come to terms with and overcome what happened to her.

Written in accessible language, this workbook serves as both a self-help book for survivors and former members, and a guide for therapists working with them.

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The world today is experiencing a massive proliferation of destructive cultic groups - religious, political, terrorist, commercial, self-help, healing, recovery, and many other kinds of groups that use deceptive recruitment tactics and coercive control of members. To the very few books meant to help those leaving cults, Dr. Jenkinson adds this comprehensive and essential volume. Having herself traversed the daunting path from traumatic abuse in a cult to freedom and recovery, Dr. Jenkinson offers the reader decades of wisdom gleaned from her therapeutic work with survivors, distilled into this eminently readable and usable volume. Both survivors and therapists alike will welcome and treasure this essential and urgently needed addition to the cult recovery literature.

Daniel Shaw, psychoanalyst and author of Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation and Traumatic Narcissism and Recovery: Leaving the Prison of Shame and Fear

Gillie Jenkinson has provided former members and those who counsel them with a unique gift, which will profoundly impact the recovery field. After leaving cult life's cognitive and emotional confusion, Dr. Jenkinson uses the perfect grounding metaphor of a physical journey (with illustrations) to give former cult members a step-by-step psychological roadmap. Like the best kind of guide, she offers wisdom gained from her own cult experience and her years as a therapist in the cult recovery field. With each step forward, as the fog of cult life begins to clear, former members can finally arrive at a place where they gain their authentic identity with a wide range of feelings and a clearer sense of reality. This workbook is a remarkable achievement.

Lorna Goldberg, LCSW, PsyA, Past President, International Cultic Studies Association and Director, Institute for Psychoanalytic Studies

Dr. Gillie Jenkinson is one of the most thoughtful and insightful clinicians in the cultic studies field. In this book, she applies her personal experience and many years of research and clinical work to construct a practical workbook for people leaving cultic groups. This is not simply an explanation of why people join and leave cults. The book provides what would be called homework in some counseling approaches. It is interactive and asks participants (they are much more than readers) to think and write, to complete forms, to wrestle with their memories, thoughts, and goals for the future. Participating in this handbook could be worth thousands of dollars in consultation time. The book is a wonderful resource, especially for those former members who do not have the resources to travel and pay for professional consultation. I recommend it highly.

Michael D. Langone, PhD, Executive Director, International Cultic Studies Association

This is a unique book and should be essential reading. It was forged in the fire of painful experience and refined by a keen mind. Gillie offers a clear pathway enabling others to make their own choices and find their own freedom. It is a remarkable story of personal transformation and hope.

Alistair Ross, Associate Professor, Psychotherapy, Oxford University

Dr. Gillie Jenkinson is a professional I know and trust. Her work has helped in the education, awareness and healing of countless people.

Steven Hassan, PhD, MA, MEd, LMHC, NCC, Freedom of Mind Resource Center, Inc.



This valuable book is a sensitively written, practical guide to cult recovery. Based on her own experiences, first as a former member, and then as a therapist specializing in cult recovery, Dr. Jenkinson shares her knowledge and offers guidance for the difficult process of integrating into the non-cult world in a healthy way.

Alexandra Stein, PhD, visiting research fellow, London South Bank University

There is a new tool to help former cult members and other survivors of abusive groups and relationships, and I will be recommending it to every former cult member who consults with me. In this ground-breaking book, Gillie Jenkinson literally takes her readers on a step-by-step journey to recovery. She doesnt use jargon and she doesnt list aspirational goals and leave the how to the readers imagination. Instead, she offers clear exercises and examples that untangle the process of recovery. The whimsical illustrations help the reader to visualize the recommended steps and invite the reader to participate. I recommend this workbook without reservation.

Bill Goldberg, clinical social worker and psychoanalyst, formerly Program Supervisor for Rehabilitative Services for Rockland County, New York (retired)

Acknowledgements xiii
Part One Setting the scene
1(18)
P1.1 Introducing the Roadmap
4(1)
P1.2 What else is in this Workbook?
4(1)
P1.3 Why this Workbook on this subject?
4(2)
P1.4 Based on `Post-Cult Counselling'
6(1)
P1.5 Equipping yourself
7(1)
P1.6 Navigating the Workbook
8(2)
P1.7 Telling your story into the Workbook
10(1)
P1.8 Challenges and triggers
11(1)
P1.9 If the Milestones don't seem to fit
11(1)
P1.10 All coercive, cultic and spiritually abusive settings
11(1)
P1.11 All generations
12(1)
P1.12 Others' stories to help you recognise yours
12(1)
P1.13 Take your time and pace yourself
13(1)
P1.14 A word about emotions
13(1)
P1.15 What if you need support?
14(1)
P1.16 What does recovery look like?
14(1)
P1.17 Your chosen destination
15(4)
Part Two Who am I?
19(8)
P2.1 Joining
20(1)
P2.2 Life in
21(2)
P2.3 Leaving -- in stages
23(2)
P2.4 Life now
25(2)
Part Three Preparing for the journey
27(20)
P3.1 Looking after yourself
27(9)
P3.2 Consider your starting point before you set off
36(11)
Part Four The Walking Free journey
47(270)
Region 1 Leave physically so you can begin to recover psychologically
49(2)
Milestone 1 Leaving physically
51(1)
M1.1 If you have not left physically or have returned
52(1)
M1.2 What leaving looks like
52(3)
M1.3 Describing your experience of leaving
55(1)
M1.4 Culture shock and feelings about leaving
56(1)
M1.5 Finding your `tribe'
57(1)
M1.6 Beware of cult hopping
58(1)
M1.7 Decision-making -- on leaving or at any time
59(4)
Region 2 Leaving psychologically
63(2)
Milestone 2 Face your doubts
65(1)
M2.1 What are doubts?
65(1)
M2.2 Experiences of doubt as a member
66(1)
M2.3 Remembering your doubts as a member
67(2)
M2.4 Facing doubts about leaving
69(2)
Milestone 3 Diagnose your group or relationship
71(1)
M3.1 Types of groups and relationships included
71(1)
M3.2 Continuum of `safe enough' to abusive
72(1)
M3.3 Call a cult a cult
73(3)
M3.4 Spiritual or religious abuse
76(2)
M3.5 What is coercive control?
78(2)
M3.6 Where did your cultic setting sit on the continuum?
80(1)
M3.7 What is the overall diagnosis of your group or relationship?
80(3)
Milestone 4 How confluent were you?
83(1)
M4.1 What is confluence?
83(2)
M4.2 The start of confluence - reciprocity and the favour
85(2)
M4.3 Living in confluence
87(4)
Milestone 5 Introjects, critical thinking and phobias
91(1)
M5.1 What is an introject?
91(10)
M5.2 Critical thinking
101(4)
M5.3 When introjects become phobias
105(6)
Milestone 6 Who are YOU?
111(2)
M6.1 Revisiting the pseudo-identity
113(2)
M6.2 Developing a `mask' after leaving
115(1)
M6.3 Building our authentic identity
115(3)
M6.4 Identity and the generations
118(1)
M6.5 Working through identity
119(12)
Milestone 7 Understanding traumatic stress
131(3)
M7.1 Managing expectations
134(1)
M7.2 Responses to trauma - fight, flight, freeze and submit
134(2)
M7.3 `Big T' traumas and `small f traumas'
136(5)
M7.4 Symptoms of trauma
141(3)
M7.5 Responses - the zones explained
144(4)
M7.6 Responses - zone shifts and unconscious awareness
148(4)
M7.7 Memories, symptoms and pattern matches
152(5)
M7.8 Recovery: using perception -- the `noticing brain'
157(3)
M7.9 Recovery: letting your body know you are now safe
160(1)
Milestone 8 Boundary-setting assertive anger -- and rage
161(1)
M8.1 Boundaries
161(3)
M8.2 Healthy boundary-setting assertive anger
164(1)
M8.3 Anger -- negative connotations, loaded language and introjects
165(3)
M8.4 Rage
168(5)
M8.5 Narcissistic rage
173(1)
M8.6 The ring of fire
173(4)
Milestone 9 Healthy self-love
177(1)
M9.1 The myth of Narcissus and Echo
178(1)
M9.2 The continuum of self-love
178(1)
M9.3 Unhealthy excess of self-love -- narcissism
179(1)
M9.4 Unhealthy lack of self-love -- echoism
179(1)
M9.5 Echoing the cultic setting's narcissism
179(2)
M9.6 Healthy self-love
181(1)
M9.7 Worksheets
182(7)
Milestone 10 Thought reform
189(1)
M10.0 Introduction
189(3)
M10.1 Milieu control
192(12)
M10.2 Mystical manipulation
204(7)
M10.3 Demand for purity
211(6)
M10.4 Confession
217(5)
M10.5 Sacred science
222(4)
M10.6 Loading the language
226(5)
M10.7 Doctrine over person
231(3)
M10.8 Dispensing of existence
234(5)
Milestone 11 Recognising other controlling dynamics
239(1)
M11.1 Double bind
239(2)
M11.2 Cognitive dissonance
241(3)
M11.3 Gaslighting
244(3)
Milestone 12 Unmasking the leader
247(1)
M12.1 The human need for authority
248(1)
M12.2 Non-abusive leaders
249(2)
M12.3 The cultic leader -- different categories
251(5)
M12.4 Understanding and unmasking the leader
256(3)
M12.5 The structure of your group or relationship
259(2)
M12.6 Unmasking your leader
261(8)
Region 3 Heal emotionally
269(2)
Milestone 13 Emotional healing
271(1)
M13.1 Your emotions matter
271(2)
M13.2 What happens to emotions in a cultic setting?
273(7)
M13.3 Coping with emotions after leaving
280(2)
M13.4 Learning to self-regulate
282(3)
M13.5 Face and move through emotions
285(2)
M13.6 Letting ourselves (and others) off the hook
287(4)
M13.7 Why did you join?
291(4)
Region 4 Walking Free
295(2)
Milestone 14 Reflections
297(1)
M14.1 Reflections on what you learned -- post-traumatic growth
297(11)
M14.2 Reflections on your initial focus and baggage
308(2)
M14.3 Writing your life story
310(1)
M14.4 Final reflections
310(1)
Milestone 15 Moving on and Walking Free!
311(2)
M15.1 Recovery tips
313(4)
Part Five Seeking therapy
317(8)
P5.1 Why seek therapy?
317(1)
P5.2 Who offers therapy?
318(1)
P5.3 Theoretical approaches
318(1)
P5.4 Challenge introjects about therapy
319(2)
P5.5 Choosing a therapist and keeping safe
321(2)
P5.6 Becoming a therapist
323(2)
Part Six Advice for therapists
325(8)
P6.1 Relational psychoeducation
326(1)
P6.2 Psychoeducational issues
326(3)
P6.3 Relational issues
329(2)
P6.4 A last word
331(2)
References 333(4)
Index 337
Gillie Jenkinson, PhD, is an accredited psychotherapist, international speaker and a director of Hope Valley Counselling. For over 25 years she has specialised, as therapist, researcher and trainer, in the challenges faced by those who have experienced coercive, cultic and spiritual abuse.