"A University of California Favorite Book of 2022
"Van Tongerens book dispels many myths about what humility is, including how it is different from modesty and can actually go hand in hand with confidence. . . . Ultimately, humility is a skill that can not only help us as individuals in our close relationships but also as a society confronting the pressing issues of our time." -- Greater Good "In a world filled with overconfidence, theres no virtue more underrated than humility. In this lucid, thoughtful book, a leading expert makes a persuasive case for being honest about your weaknessesand shows how that can be a source of strength." -- Adam Grant, #1 New York Timesbestselling author of Think Again and host of the podcast WorkLife "A new book on the quiet power of restraint." -- Associated Press "It used to be that humility was one of the most underestimated of the virtues. Not anymore. Following the latest science, Daryl Van Tongeren shines light on this ancient, old-fashioned virtue in a brand-new way. Unpacking the many meanings, layers and levels of humility, he clearly and compellingly demonstrates why it is so necessary in todays world. Humility appears to be so small, so modest, so unassuming, so humble. But we should not be deceived by its appearance." -- Robert Emmons, editor-in-chief of The Journal of Positive Psychology and author of The Little Book of Gratitude "Daryl Van Tongeren has written an important book that can provide a much-needed antidote to the narcissism and the crisis of meaning that pervades our society." -- Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD,New York Timesbestselling author of Happier and Happier, No Matter What "Narcissism and self-promotion have seduced millions into wasting their lives, pretending to be someone theyre not. But Dr. Van Tongeren shows us a way out: the ancient virtue of humility. If youre tired of the superficiality of modern life, Humble has the antidote. Its a road map for getting our feet back on the ground." -- Daniel Z. Lieberman, MD, coauthor of The Molecule of More "Its a delightfully ironic fact of science: when you understand the power of humility, you discover a more self-confident way to engage with the world. A superior self through selflessnesswho knew?" -- Michael E. Long, coauthor of The Molecule of More "We live in a world where big egos stand out and seemingly get rewarded. In his fantastic new book, Dr. Van Tongeren makes a compelling case for humility as a virtue: It is not about avoiding life, but about confronting ourselves, our relationships, and our world with openness and willingness to accept that we do not hold all the answers. Humble can inspire growth and make for a truly rich life." -- W. Keith Campbell, PhD, author of The New Science of Narcissism "An enlightening book on a neglected virtue. Backed by scientific research and leavened with helpful anecdotes, Van Tongeren makes a convincing case that humility can improve how we see (and treat) ourselves, others, and the world around us." -- Michael McCullough, professor of psychology, University of California, San Diego, and author of The Kindness of Strangers "In this increasingly self-absorbed era riddled with selfies and vanity, humility is harder than ever to find. Social psychologist Van Tongeren (Hope Coll.) draws from years of graduate and post-graduate research to define what it means to be humble and how this endangered virtue could bring connection and understanding in a divided and narcissistic world. . . . Readers looking to better understand interpersonal relationships will learn much." -- Library Journal
