Intimacy After Trauma is a manifesto on structural optimism in queer relationships. It shows that pitfalls may be dodged like briar patches with self-awareness, informed external voices, and recognition of the 'emotional climate' one has built with one's partner. It is a mille-feuille of queer insight and, with its combination of psychoanalysis and heart, it is a most edifying read! -- Tom Read Wilson, Actor/Presenter Michael is a gifted clinician who brings his lived experience into a healing and helpful book. In a moment where automation is everywhere, this timely book brings a sense of helpfulness and humanity to gay men. -- Eric Deeter, MA, LMHC, individual and couples therapist in Seattle, Washington I read this book right after a breakup, and it honestly helped me make sense of a lot of things I'd been sitting with. It didn't take the pain away, but it gave me a clearer picture of what actually happened and how to move forward without carrying all the weight. -- Dustin Koncinsky - collage artist and product experience manager living in Seattle