Introduction |
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PART ONE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS |
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Skill #1 Building Awareness of Your Defaults |
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13 | (7) |
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Skill #2 Identifying Reactivity |
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20 | (4) |
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Skill #3 Learning to Interrupt Reactivity |
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24 | (6) |
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Skill #4 Stopping Distorted Thinking |
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30 | (7) |
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Skill #5 Managing Tough Emotions with Discernment |
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37 | (6) |
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43 | (22) |
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Skill #6 Creating a Secure Space for Vulnerability |
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37 | (12) |
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Skill #7 Moving from Judgment to Curiosity |
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49 | (4) |
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Skill #8 Practicing Gratitude to Deepen Emotional Intimacy |
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53 | (5) |
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Skill #9 Recognizing Unresolvable Conflicts |
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58 | (4) |
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Skill #10 Giving the Benefit of the Doubt |
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62 | (3) |
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65 | (17) |
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Skill #11 Establishing Emotional Consent |
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66 | (5) |
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Skill #12 Building Emotional Literacy |
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71 | (2) |
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Skill #13 Developing Empathetic Communication Skills |
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73 | (4) |
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Skill #14 Separating Thoughts from Feelings |
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77 | (3) |
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80 | (2) |
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4 Accountability G Repair |
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82 | (21) |
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Skill #16 Shifting from Blame to Personal Accountability |
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83 | (4) |
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Skill #17 Understanding Your Conflict Dance |
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87 | (5) |
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Skill #18 Circling Back to Repair Misunderstanding |
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92 | (2) |
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Skill #19 Making an Apology that Counts |
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94 | (5) |
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Skill #20 Building Trust by Following Through |
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99 | (4) |
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103 | (17) |
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Skill #21 Building Safety for Intimacy |
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104 | (3) |
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Skill #22 Cultivating Physical Intimacy |
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107 | (4) |
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Skill #23 Emotional, Spiritual, S Intellectual Intimacy |
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111 | (3) |
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Skill #24 Nourishing Functional or Familial Intimacy |
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114 | (3) |
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Skill #25 Identifying Intimacy Needs in Relationships |
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117 | (3) |
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120 | (14) |
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Skill #26 Recognizing When Boundaries Need Work |
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121 | (2) |
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Skill #27 Differentiating Among Wants, Needs, & Requirements |
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123 | (3) |
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Skill #28 Asking for What You Need |
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126 | (2) |
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Skill #29 Moving Toward, Away. & Against |
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128 | (3) |
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Skill #30 Using a Mindful Approach to Conflict |
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131 | (3) |
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PART TWO RELATIONSHIP ISSUES |
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134 | (97) |
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136 | (15) |
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Issue #1 Diminished Desire |
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137 | (3) |
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140 | (3) |
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Issue #3 Sharing New Sexual Fantasies |
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143 | (3) |
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146 | (3) |
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149 | (2) |
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151 | (19) |
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Issue #6 Personal Purpose Clarity |
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152 | (3) |
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155 | (2) |
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Issue #8 Professional Purpose |
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157 | (4) |
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Issue #9 Visioning & Long-Range Plans |
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161 | (3) |
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Issue #10 Transparency, Honesty, & Trust |
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164 | (3) |
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167 | (3) |
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170 | (10) |
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Issue #12 Financial Upbringing |
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171 | (3) |
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Issue #13 Decision-Making & Power with Money |
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174 | (3) |
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Issue #14 Household Contribution |
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177 | (3) |
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180 | (16) |
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Issue #15 In-Laws & Family Norms |
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181 | (3) |
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Issue #16 Boundaries with Family |
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184 | (3) |
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Issue #17 Information Sharing & Privacy |
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187 | (3) |
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Issue #18 Differing Social Needs |
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190 | (3) |
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Issue #19 Reaffirming the Couple Bubble |
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193 | (3) |
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196 | (16) |
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Issue #20 Default Responsibilities |
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197 | (3) |
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Issue #21 Never Checking In or Updating Processes |
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200 | (3) |
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Issue #22 No Accountability or Follow-Through |
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203 | (3) |
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Issue #23 Request Expectation Management |
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206 | (3) |
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Issue #24 Building Resentments |
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209 | (3) |
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12 Friendships G Other People |
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212 | (19) |
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213 | (3) |
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216 | (3) |
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219 | (3) |
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222 | (3) |
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225 | (6) |
Conclusion |
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231 | (1) |
Appendix |
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232 | (3) |
References |
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235 | (1) |
Index |
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236 | (9) |
Acknowledgments |
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245 | (1) |
About the author |
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