Acknowledgments ix
Introduction 1
Part I Learning to Pause 11
Chapter 1 Why Is It So Hard to Pause? 13
Chapter 2 The Pause Principle: SOFTEN 21
Part II the Pause Practices 33
Chapter 3 Sensation 35
Chapter 4 Own Your Discomfort 45
Chapter 5 Focus on the Present Moment 55
Chapter 6 Take a Breath 67
Chapter 7 Eyes Toward Another 83
Chapter 8 Need to Say 101
Chapter 9 SOFTEN Meditation Practices 119
Chapter 10 The Pause Principle in Action 143
Final Thoughts 151
References 155
About the Author 161
Index 165