So you think you’re self-aware? Think again!
Most leaders believe themselves to be self-aware. But what does ‘self-awareness’ really mean? How is it different from self-knowledge or self-consciousness? Being self-aware starts with understanding what self-awareness is, so that’s where this book begins. It then goes on to explore why developing self-awareness is the route to developing deeper self-acceptance and self-connection, so that you can start to de-latch your self-worth and ego from outcomes, meaning that you become able to lead more powerfully through uncertainty.
Leaders are increasingly facing ‘wicked problems’ in this VUCA world so this book is primarily written for them; it is also highly relevant for coaches supporting those leaders and for anyone who wants to develop self-awareness more effectively.
The writing is underpinned and inspired by Julia Carden’s doctoral research into self-awareness and its role in the development of executive coaches, and includes questions and exercises for self-reflection to develop self-awareness at every step.
So you think you’re self-aware? Think again. True self-awareness leads to deep self-connection, required for deeper connection with others for a more authentic and expansive leadership style demanded of you in this VUCA world.
INTRODUCTION
Each chapter will include and end with reflective coaching style questions
for the reader to do their own work.
PART 1: What is self-awareness and why it matters.
Chapter 1: Why are we talking about self-awareness?
Sets out why self-awareness is important and why it is the route to leading
through uncertainty. It will introduce the concept of negative capability.
Includes a visual 4-box model
Chapter 2: So you think you know what self-awareness is.
Discussion as to what self-awareness is and how it differs from
self-knowledge and self-consciousness. Includes a visual definition of the
construct.
Chapter 3: Doing the work: where to start?
Focuses on what is needed to develop self-awareness in terms of mindset and
self-compassion. It will give the reader some guidance as to how to start the
work. Includes a visual of developing self-awareness
Part 2: Developing Self-Awareness - The Interpersonal Components
Chapters 4 10 will take each of the components of self-awareness in turn.
Description of the component
Methods for developing the component
Reflective (coaching style) questions to reflect on in relation to the
component
Chapter 4: Developing Self-Awareness: The Interpersonal Component of Others
Perceptions.
Chapter 5: Developing Self-Awareness: The Interpersonal Component of
Behaviours.
Part 3: Developing Self-Awareness - The Intrapersonal Components
Chapter 6: Developing Self-Awareness: The Intrapersonal Component of Beliefs
and Values.
Chapter 7: Developing Self-Awareness: The Intrapersonal Component of
Strengths and Weaknesses.
Chapter 8: Developing Self-Awareness: The Intrapersonal Component of
Motivations.
Chapter 9: Developing Self-Awareness: The Intrapersonal Component of Internal
Mental State.
Chapter 10: Developing Self-Awareness: The Intrapersonal Component of
Physiological Responses.
Part 2 & Part 3: Final Words about Self-Awareness
A short summary piece on developing self-awareness and doing the work.
Includew some final reflective questions.
Part 4: Self-Connection to lead through uncertainty
Chapter 11: Self Connection as a route to leading and coaching through
uncertainty (or Self-Connection for Deeper Connection with others).
Discusses what is meant by self-connection and the development of negative
capability. And then build on the steps required to maintain and sustain this
capacity. Includes a visual showing the ongoing nature of developing
self-awareness.
Chapter 12: Self-Awareness or Self-Deception?
A discussion as to what is self-deception is (how it differs to
self-delusion) and how to avoid it. Plus thinking on why we can never be too
self-aware.
Chapter 13: Facilitating Self-Awareness in Others
Some thoughts and exercises to support others in developing self-awareness.
Chapter 14: Conclusion and Final Words
A chapter of final words/thoughts and signposting to other resources.
Appendix: Other Reading & Resources
References
Dr Julia Carden was born and raised in Cornwall and made in the Royal Navy. A certified and accredited coach, she runs a coaching and coaching supervision practice and is a visiting tutor at Henley Business School, teaching on the Professional Certificate in Executive Coaching, MSc in Executive Coaching for Behavioural Change and heading up the Professional Certificate in Coaching Supervision.
