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January 1 How early should you start teaching manners? |
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January 2 There's no place like home |
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January 3 "Please" and "thank you" |
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4 | (1) |
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5 | (1) |
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January 5 Addressing others properly |
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6 | (1) |
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January 6 Bow, kiss, or shake hands? |
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7 | (1) |
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January 7 Accept compliments |
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8 | (1) |
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January 8 Give sincere compliments |
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9 | (2) |
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11 | (1) |
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12 | (1) |
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January 11 Anticipating the needs of others |
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12 | (1) |
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13 | (1) |
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January 13 Breaking items |
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14 | (1) |
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January 14 When you don't know what to do |
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15 | (1) |
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January 15 Dress appropriately for the occasion |
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16 | (2) |
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18 | (1) |
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January 17 It's easy being clean |
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18 | (1) |
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19 | (1) |
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January 19 Grooming in public |
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20 | (1) |
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21 | (1) |
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21 | (1) |
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January 22 Oh, no, I've gotta go! |
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22 | (1) |
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January 23 Posture communicates |
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23 | (1) |
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24 | (1) |
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January 25 Coughing or sneezing at the table |
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24 | (1) |
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January 26 If your child's nose is running at the table |
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25 | (1) |
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January 27 What to do with a belch |
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25 | (1) |
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January 28 Wearing a name tag |
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26 | (1) |
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27 | (1) |
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28 | (1) |
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January 31 Visiting the doctor |
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28 | (1) |
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February 1 In the hospital |
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29 | (1) |
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30 | (1) |
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February 3 Inappropriate touch |
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31 | (1) |
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February 4 Awareness of others |
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32 | (1) |
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February 5 Protecting others |
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33 | (1) |
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February 6 Young men: marks of distinction |
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34 | (1) |
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February 7 Sitting and standing tall |
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35 | (1) |
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February 8 Asking for a date |
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35 | (1) |
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February 9 When to wear a hat |
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36 | (2) |
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February 10 Sitting gracefully |
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38 | (1) |
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February 11 Accepting a date |
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39 | (1) |
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February 12 Declining a date |
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40 | (1) |
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February 13 Young women: marks of distinction |
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40 | (1) |
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February 14 When Mom and Dad come home |
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41 | (1) |
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February 15 How are we related? |
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42 | (1) |
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February 16 Stepparent and Stepsibling dos and don'ts |
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43 | (1) |
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February 17 When your child has a babysitter |
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44 | (1) |
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February 18 When friends are more interested in siblings |
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45 | (1) |
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February 19 When friends don't want to be with siblings |
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46 | (1) |
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February 20 Frightening others |
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46 | (1) |
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February 21 Slamming doors |
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47 | (1) |
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47 | (2) |
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February 23 The family computer |
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49 | (1) |
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February 24 Cards and board games |
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49 | (1) |
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50 | (1) |
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51 | (1) |
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February 27 When your child is home alone |
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52 | (1) |
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February 28 Little things around the house |
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52 | (1) |
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March 1 May I have your attention, please? |
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53 | (2) |
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March 2 Your child's bedroom |
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55 | (1) |
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Getting Along with Other Kids |
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56 | (2) |
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58 | (1) |
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March 5 Is your child a good friend? |
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59 | (1) |
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60 | (1) |
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March 7 When your child wants a new friend |
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60 | (1) |
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March 8 New kid on the block |
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61 | (1) |
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March 9 When your family moves |
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62 | (1) |
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March 10 When a friend moves |
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63 | (1) |
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March 11 Public playgrounds |
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64 | (1) |
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65 | (1) |
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March 13 Neighborly manners |
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65 | (1) |
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66 | (1) |
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67 | (1) |
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March 16 The pets of others |
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68 | (1) |
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March 17 On the school bus |
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69 | (1) |
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70 | (1) |
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March 19 Changing the subject politely |
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70 | (1) |
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71 | (1) |
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March 21 When a friend loses a loved one |
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72 | (1) |
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March 22 When a friend has bad news |
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72 | (1) |
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March 23 When a friend's parents are getting a divorce |
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73 | (2) |
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March 24 Introduce the more important person first |
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75 | (1) |
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March 25 Remembering names |
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76 | (1) |
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March 26 Include names in introductions |
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77 | (1) |
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March 27 Introducing parents with a different last name |
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77 | (1) |
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March 28 If you forget someone's name |
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78 | (1) |
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78 | (1) |
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March 30 Stand to show respect |
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79 | (1) |
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March 31 Placing a telephone call |
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80 | (2) |
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82 | (1) |
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83 | (1) |
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April 3 Handling call waiting (yours) |
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84 | (1) |
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April 4 Handling call waiting (theirs) |
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84 | (1) |
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April 5 Home alone: answering the phone |
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85 | (1) |
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April 6 When your child doesn't want to talk on the phone |
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85 | (1) |
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April 7 Answering machines: your recorded message |
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86 | (1) |
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April 8 Answering machines: leaving a message |
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87 | (1) |
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88 | (1) |
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88 | (1) |
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April 11 Getting a wrong number |
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89 | (1) |
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April 12 Phone tricks and pranks |
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90 | (1) |
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April 13 How cell phones are different |
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91 | (1) |
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April 14 Message checking |
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92 | (1) |
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April 15 Taking calls in public |
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93 | (1) |
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93 | (1) |
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April 17 Playing phone tag |
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94 | (1) |
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April 18 Avoid chewing while talking |
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95 | (1) |
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April 19 No cell phone calls in the bathroom |
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95 | (1) |
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96 | (1) |
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April 21 Cell phones at the table |
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97 | (1) |
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April 22 When your child should call you |
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98 | (1) |
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April 23 Your voice volume |
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98 | (1) |
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April 24 Your voice-mail greeting |
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99 | (1) |
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April 25 Taking pictures with a cell phone |
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100 | (1) |
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101 | (1) |
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April 27 Ask for permission first |
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102 | (1) |
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April 28 How to avoid texting the wrong person |
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103 | (1) |
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April 29 When a text goes to the wrong person |
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104 | (1) |
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April 30 When not to text |
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105 | (1) |
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105 | (2) |
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More on Digital Technology |
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May 2 The same rules apply |
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107 | (1) |
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May 3 Don't barrage others with messages |
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108 | (1) |
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May 4 Language and grammar |
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108 | (1) |
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109 | (1) |
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May 6 When there's a generation gap |
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110 | (1) |
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May 7 Know your gadget before you use it |
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111 | (1) |
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May 8 Ask how you should contact someone |
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112 | (1) |
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May 9 Choosing the best medium for the message |
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113 | (1) |
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May 10 When to use a personal music-playing device |
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113 | (1) |
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May 11 Volume of a personal music-playing device |
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114 | (1) |
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May 12 When you run into someone |
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115 | (1) |
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Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, Oh My |
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May 13 Social-media mania |
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116 | (1) |
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May 14 Staying social-media safe |
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117 | (1) |
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May 15 Don't go too personal |
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118 | (1) |
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119 | (1) |
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120 | (1) |
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May 18 Setting up a profile on Facebook |
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121 | (1) |
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May 19 Making friends on Facebook |
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122 | (1) |
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May 20 Kids are friends with kids |
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123 | (1) |
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123 | (1) |
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May 22 Posting and tagging photos |
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124 | (1) |
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May 23 Seeing the real picture |
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125 | (1) |
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May 24 Which way to communicate |
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126 | (1) |
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127 | (1) |
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May 26 Netiquette: rules for your child |
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128 | (1) |
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May 27 More netiquette: keeping kids safe |
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128 | (1) |
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May 28 Nine nevers for Internet safety |
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129 | (1) |
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May 29 What is cyberbullying? |
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130 | (1) |
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May 30 How to prevent cyberbullying |
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131 | (1) |
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May 31 If your child is cyberbullied |
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132 | (1) |
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June 1 If your child takes part in cyberbullying |
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132 | (2) |
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June 2 Positive use of humor |
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134 | (1) |
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June 3 When your child is funny |
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135 | (1) |
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136 | (1) |
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136 | (1) |
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137 | (1) |
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June 7 How to just say no to drugs and alcohol |
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138 | (1) |
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139 | (1) |
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June 9 Correcting a friend |
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139 | (1) |
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140 | (1) |
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June 11 When your child doesn't want to play |
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140 | (1) |
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June 12 When someone speaks to your child |
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141 | (1) |
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142 | (1) |
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June 14 Making light of serious subjects |
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143 | (1) |
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June 15 Distinctive speech |
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143 | (1) |
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144 | (1) |
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145 | (1) |
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June 18 Asking leading questions |
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145 | (1) |
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June 19 Using positive words |
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146 | (1) |
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147 | (1) |
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148 | (1) |
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June 22 Asking none-of-your-business questions |
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149 | (1) |
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June 23 Answering none-of-your-business questions |
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149 | (1) |
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June 24 When adults do annoying things |
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149 | (1) |
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June 25 Show deference to older people |
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150 | (1) |
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June 26 Correcting adults |
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151 | (1) |
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June 27 Ten TNT Discussion Topics |
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151 | (1) |
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June 28 Practice conversation starters |
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152 | (1) |
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The Written Word: Letters, Thank-you Notes, and E-mail |
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June 29 Signing a yearbook |
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153 | (1) |
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154 | (1) |
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July 1 When to write a thank-you note |
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155 | (1) |
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July 2 What's in a thank-you note? |
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156 | (1) |
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July 3 Writing letters with care |
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156 | (1) |
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July 4 Writing a letter to a famous person |
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157 | (1) |
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July 5 A condolence letter |
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158 | (1) |
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158 | (1) |
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July 7 Framing an e-mail's subject line |
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159 | (1) |
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160 | (1) |
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161 | (1) |
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162 | (1) |
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162 | (1) |
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July 12 Ask before forwarding |
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163 | (1) |
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July 13 Limit the number of messages |
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164 | (1) |
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165 | (1) |
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July 15 Good grammar always works |
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166 | (1) |
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July 16 Manage your emotions |
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167 | (1) |
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168 | (1) |
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169 | (1) |
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July 19 Using "reply all" |
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170 | (1) |
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July 20 If you change your e-mail address |
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170 | (1) |
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July 21 E-mail or snail mail for a thank-you? |
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171 | (1) |
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July 22 Traveling on an airplane |
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172 | (1) |
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July 23 Traveling by train |
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173 | (1) |
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July 24 How to tip on a trip |
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174 | (1) |
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July 25 Consideration of others in a hotel |
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175 | (1) |
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July 26 In the family car |
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176 | (1) |
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July 27 When your child is a guest in a car |
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177 | (1) |
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177 | (2) |
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179 | (1) |
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July 30 Camping: thinking about others |
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179 | (1) |
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July 31 Camping: courtesy toward your family |
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180 | (2) |
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August 1 Stick to the trail |
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182 | (1) |
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August 2 Stick to a campsite |
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183 | (1) |
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August 3 Sharing the trail |
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183 | (1) |
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184 | (1) |
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185 | (1) |
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August 6 Outdoors with your pet |
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186 | (1) |
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August 7 Your noise level outdoors |
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187 | (1) |
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187 | (2) |
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189 | (1) |
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August 10 Seeing a movie with a friend |
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190 | (2) |
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192 | (1) |
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August 12 How and when to applaud |
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192 | (2) |
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194 | (1) |
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195 | (1) |
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195 | (1) |
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196 | (1) |
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August 17 Reading a restaurant menu |
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197 | (1) |
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August 18 Ordering from a menu |
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198 | (1) |
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August 19 Confusing menu terms |
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199 | (1) |
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August 20 Restaurant protocol |
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200 | (1) |
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August 21 Handling problems in restaurants |
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201 | (1) |
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August 22 Keeping your area neat at a restaurant |
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202 | (1) |
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August 23 The people who work in a restaurant |
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203 | (1) |
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August 24 What about tipping? |
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204 | (1) |
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August 25 Things not to do in a restaurant |
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205 | (1) |
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206 | (1) |
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206 | (1) |
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August 28 Saving a place in line |
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207 | (1) |
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August 29 Butting into a line |
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207 | (1) |
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August 30 When you bump into someone |
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208 | (1) |
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August 31 On an escalator |
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208 | (1) |
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September 1 On an elevator |
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209 | (1) |
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September 2 Giving up your seat |
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209 | (1) |
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September 3 Stay to the right, please |
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210 | (1) |
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210 | (1) |
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September 5 Forgetting an appointment |
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211 | (2) |
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September 6 Start the meal off right with proper posture |
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213 | (1) |
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September 7 Everyday table manners |
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214 | (1) |
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September 8 Don't bring these things to the table |
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215 | (1) |
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September 9 Set the table properly |
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216 | (1) |
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September 10 Formal table settings |
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217 | (1) |
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September 11 Take formal table manners to dinner |
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218 | (1) |
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September 12 Blowing on food |
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219 | (1) |
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September 13 Paper trash at the table |
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220 | (1) |
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September 14 Grace: the art of giving thanks |
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220 | (1) |
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September 15 Grace: when you're visiting someone else |
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221 | (1) |
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September 16 Who gets served first? |
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221 | (1) |
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September 17 Passing food |
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222 | (1) |
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September 18 Asking for a drink |
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223 | (1) |
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September 19 Removing plates during the meal |
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223 | (1) |
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September 20 Cutting meat |
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224 | (1) |
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September 21 If a guest is a vegetarian |
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224 | (1) |
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September 22 If your child is a vegetarian |
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225 | (1) |
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September 23 If food is spoiled |
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225 | (1) |
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September 24 Using utensils correctly |
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226 | (1) |
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September 25 Napkin etiquette |
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227 | (1) |
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September 26 Ten things your child should never do at the table |
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228 | (1) |
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September 27 Second helpings |
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228 | (1) |
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September 28 When to begin eating |
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229 | (1) |
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September 29 Leaving the table early |
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230 | (1) |
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September 30 Serving a meal |
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230 | (1) |
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October 1 Cleansing the palate |
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231 | (1) |
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October 2 At the end of a formal meal |
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232 | (1) |
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October 3 Food your child hates |
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232 | (1) |
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October 4 When your child is allergic to certain foods |
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233 | (1) |
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234 | (1) |
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October 6 The protocol of afternoon tea |
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235 | (1) |
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236 | (2) |
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Stay Out of Sticky Situations with Food! |
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October 8 Removing items from your mouth |
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238 | (1) |
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October 9 How to handle special diets |
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239 | (1) |
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October 10 How to eat difficult foods |
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240 | (1) |
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240 | (2) |
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October 12 Eating a salad |
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242 | (1) |
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242 | (1) |
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October 14 How to eat pasta |
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243 | (1) |
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October 15 How to eat shish kabob |
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244 | (1) |
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October 16 Corn on the cob |
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244 | (1) |
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October 17 Eating lobster |
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245 | (1) |
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October 18 Eating fried chicken |
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245 | (1) |
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246 | (1) |
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247 | (1) |
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October 21 Eating fresh fruit |
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247 | (1) |
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October 22 Gravies, condiments, and relishes |
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248 | (1) |
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October 23 Foreign matter in food |
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249 | (1) |
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October 24 How to hold a glass |
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249 | (1) |
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October 25 Eating in front of others |
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250 | (2) |
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Invitations: Giving and Receiving |
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October 26 The nicest way to issue a verbal invitation |
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252 | (1) |
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October 27 How to issue a written invitation |
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253 | (1) |
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October 28 Responding to invitations |
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254 | (1) |
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October 29 When it's okay to decline |
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255 | (1) |
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October 30 When your child isn't invited |
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256 | (1) |
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October 31 Two invitations for the same day |
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256 | (2) |
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Birthdays, Weddings, Receptions, and Other Special Occasions |
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November 1 At your child's own birthday party |
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258 | (1) |
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November 2 Attending a birthday party |
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259 | (1) |
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November 3 Receiving lines |
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260 | (1) |
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November 4 Taking a child to a wedding |
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261 | (1) |
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November 5 What to do at a wedding |
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262 | (1) |
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November 6 Self-control at a reception |
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263 | (1) |
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November 7 Serving yourself from a buffet table |
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264 | (1) |
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November 8 Hang on to your plate at a reception |
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265 | (1) |
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November 9 Wearing flowers |
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266 | (1) |
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November 10 Getting an autograph |
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266 | (1) |
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November 11 Receiving an award |
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267 | (1) |
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November 12 At a school dance |
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268 | (1) |
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November 13 When your child is behind the camera |
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269 | (1) |
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November 14 When your child is in front of the camera |
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269 | (2) |
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Be a Great Guest (and Host) |
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November 15 A good attitude for a good guest |
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271 | (2) |
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November 16 What a guest should pack |
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273 | (1) |
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November 17 Nice things for a guest to say |
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274 | (1) |
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November 18 How to become a guest who is invited again |
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275 | (1) |
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November 19 Say goodbye and leave promptly |
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275 | (1) |
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November 20 Being a good host |
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276 | (1) |
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November 21 For first-time guests |
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277 | (1) |
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November 22 Serving food to your friends |
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278 | (1) |
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November 23 The right guest list |
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279 | (1) |
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November 24 Inviting friends over again |
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280 | (1) |
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November 25 Sleepovers: bathroom etiquette |
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281 | (1) |
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November 26 Sleepovers: bedtime etiquette |
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281 | (1) |
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November 27 Sleepovers: mealtime etiquette |
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282 | (1) |
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November 28 Guests go first |
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283 | (2) |
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November 29 The national anthem |
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285 | (1) |
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November 30 Pledge of Allegiance |
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286 | (1) |
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December 1 Care of the U.S. flag |
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287 | (1) |
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December 2 Appreciating ideals and learning patriotism |
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288 | (1) |
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December 3 When in another country |
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289 | (1) |
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December 4 Being part of a community |
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290 | (1) |
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December 5 Environmental manners |
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291 | (1) |
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292 | (1) |
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December 7 At a friend's house |
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293 | (1) |
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293 | (2) |
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December 9 At the grocery store |
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295 | (1) |
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December 10 Birthday party |
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295 | (1) |
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December 11 Out on the town |
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296 | (1) |
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December 12 When you travel |
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297 | (2) |
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December 13 Enjoy the game |
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299 | (1) |
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December 14 Rituals at athletic events |
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300 | (1) |
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December 15 Good sportsmanship |
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301 | (1) |
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December 16 The valued teammate |
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302 | (2) |
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Being Considerate to People with Special Needs |
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December 17 Visiting someone who is sick |
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304 | (1) |
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December 18 Relating to people with disabilities |
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305 | (2) |
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December 19 People with visual problems |
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307 | (1) |
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December 20 People with hearing loss |
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308 | (1) |
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December 21 People in wheelchairs |
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309 | (2) |
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Gifts---Giving and Getting |
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311 | (1) |
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312 | (1) |
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December 24 Choosing a gift |
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312 | (1) |
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December 25 Giving gifts at home |
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313 | (1) |
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December 26 Gifts for the host |
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314 | (1) |
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315 | (1) |
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December 28 Occasions to give a gift |
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316 | (1) |
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December 29 Opening gifts at a party |
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317 | (1) |
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December 30 When your child doesn't like the gift |
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317 | (1) |
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December 31 When your child receives duplicate gifts |
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318 | (1) |
| In Conclusion |
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319 | (2) |
| Acknowledgments |
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