Argues that the growing phenomenon of peer orientation--using one's peers for a sense of direction, values, identity, and codes of behavior--is undermining family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters an aggressive, sexual youth culture, and explains how to reverse the trend to serve as a source of guidance, love, and security for children. Reprint. 15,000 first printing.
PART ONE THE PHENOMENON OF PEER ORIENTATION
Why Parents Matter More Than Ever
3
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Skewed Attachments, Subverted Instincts
15
(16)
Why We've Come Undone
31
(16)
PART TWO SABOTAGED: HOW PEER ORIENTATION UNDERMINES PARENTING
The Power to Parent Is Slipping Away
47
(12)
From Help to Hindrance: When Attachment Works Against Us
59
(15)
Counterwill: Why Children Become Disobedient
74
(12)
The Flatlining of Culture
86
(11)
PART THREE STUCK IN IMMATURITY: HOW PEER ORIENTATION STUNTS HEALTHY DEVELOPMENT
The Dangerous Flight from Feeling
97
(13)
Stuck in Immaturity
110
(17)
A Legacy of Aggression
127
(12)
The Making of Bullies and Victims
139
(15)
A Sexual Turn
154
(11)
Unteachable Students
165
(14)
PART FOUR HOW TO HOLD ON TO OUR KIDS (OR HOW TO RECLAIM THEM)
