Matés book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light Guardian
Bold, wise and deeply moral. [ Maté] is a healer to be cherished Naomi Klein, author of No Logo and The Shock Doctrine
Children take their lead from their friends: being cool matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity and codes of behaviour, peer groups are often far more influential than parents.
But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious and alienated.
In Hold on to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with Gordon Neufeld, a psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting. Together they pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to reattach to sons and daughters, establish the hierarchy at home, make children feel safe and understood, and earn back your children's loyalty and love. This updated edition also addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media.
By helping to reawaken our instincts, Maté and Neufeld empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security and warmth for their children.
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Gabor Matés connectionsbetween the intensely personal and the global, the spiritual and the medical, the psychological and the politicalare bold, wise and deeply moral. He is a healer to be cherished * Naomi Klein, author of No Logo and The Shock Doctrine * A visionary book that goes beyond the usual explanations to illuminate a crisis of unrecognized proportions. The authors show us how we are losing contact with our children and how this loss undermines their development and threatens the very fabric of society. Most importantly they offer, through concrete examples and clear suggestions, practical help for parents to fulfil their instinctual roles. A brilliant and well written book one to be taken very seriously * Peter A. Levine Ph.D., International teacher and author of the bestselling books: Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma and It Won't Hurt Forever, Guiding Your Child through Trauma * Hold on to Your Kids brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting. The authors integrate psychology, anthropology, neurology and their own personal and professional experiences. a worthy book with practical implications * Dr Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia and The Shelter of Each Other * Matés book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light * Guardian * Hold On to Your Kids is full of easy tips for avoiding calamity * Times *
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Bestselling author and clinician Gabor Mate presents a radical new parenting model to instil strong values and self-esteem in your children.
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PART ONE THE PHENOMENON OF PEER ORIENTATION |
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1 Why Parents Matter More Than Ever |
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2 Skewed Attachments, Subverted Instincts |
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PART TWO SABOTAGED: HOW PEER ORIENTATION UNDERMINES PARENTING |
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4 The Power to Parent Is Slipping Away |
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5 From Help to Hindrance: When Attachment Works Against Us |
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6 Counterwill: Why Children Become Disobedient |
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7 The Flatlining of Culture |
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PART THREE STUCK IN IMMATURITY: HOW PEER ORIENTATION STUNTS HEALTHY DEVELOPMENT |
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8 The Dangerous Flight from Feeling |
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10 A Legacy of Aggression |
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11 The Making of Bullies and Victims |
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PART FOUR HOW TO HOLD ON TO OUR KIDS (OR HOW TO RECLAIM THEM) |
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14 Collecting Our Children |
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15 Preserve the Ties That Empower |
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16 Discipline That Does Not Divide |
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PART FIVE PREVENTING PEER ORIENTATION |
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17 Don't Court the Competition |
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18 Re-create the Attachment Village |
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PART SIX A POSTSCRIPT FOR THE DIGITAL AGE |
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19 The Digital Revolution Bent Out of Shape |
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| Glossary |
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Gabor Maté (Author) A celebrated speaker, and bestselling author, Dr Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development. Rather than offering quick-fix solutions to these complex issues, Dr Maté weaves together scientific research, case histories, and his own insights and experience to present a broad perspective that enlightens and empowers people to promote their own healing and that of those around them.
Dr Maté has written several bestselling books including When the Body Says No, Scattered Minds and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His most recent book The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture is a New York Times bestseller. Dr Maté's works have been published internationally in over twenty languages.
Supporters of Dr Maté include Dr Rangan Chatterjee, Bessel van der Kolk, Johann Hari and Esther Perel. He was recently featured in the highly publicised livestream conversation with Prince Harry where they discussed loss, trauma and the importance of healing.
Gordon Neufeld (Author) Gordon Neufeld PhD, is a Vancouver-based clinical psychologist, internationally renowned as a foremost authority on child development. His Neufeld Institute delivers many courses he has created for parents, educators, and helping professionals on several continents. He is recognized for his unique ability to unlock the clues to seemingly complex problems of child rearing and education.
