| Acknowledgments |
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| Introduction |
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| How to Use This Book |
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| How to Discuss Your Differences |
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| Part 1 Your Past |
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1 Growing Up in a Traditional Family |
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2 Growing Up with Divorced or Single Parents |
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3 Impact and Influences of Other Relationships |
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Your Past: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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| Part 2 Parents and In-Laws |
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17 | (2) |
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19 | (2) |
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21 | (1) |
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8 Spending Time with Parents |
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22 | (2) |
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24 | (4) |
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Parents and In-Laws: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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28 | (3) |
| Part 3 Significant Others |
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33 | (2) |
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35 | (2) |
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37 | (2) |
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13 Exes and Past Relationships |
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41 | (2) |
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Significant Others: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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43 | (2) |
| Part 4 Children |
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45 | (18) |
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47 | (2) |
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49 | (2) |
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51 | (2) |
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53 | (3) |
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19 Stepchildren and Guardianship |
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56 | (2) |
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20 How Would You Respond? |
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Children: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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60 | (3) |
| Part 5 Perspectives |
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21 Religion and Spirituality |
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65 | (3) |
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68 | (2) |
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72 | (3) |
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78 | (2) |
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Perspectives: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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80 | (3) |
| Part 6 Daily Life and Lifestyles |
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85 | (2) |
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89 | (2) |
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91 | (2) |
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Daily Life and Lifestyles: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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93 | (2) |
| Part 7 Leisure Time |
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97 | (2) |
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101 | (3) |
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34 Are We Having Fun Yet? |
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104 | (3) |
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Leisure Time: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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107 | (2) |
| Part 8 Finances |
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109 | (22) |
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35 Saving and Spending Styles |
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111 | (3) |
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114 | (2) |
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116 | (2) |
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118 | (4) |
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122 | (2) |
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40 Your Marriage, Money, and the Law |
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124 | (3) |
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127 | (2) |
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Finances: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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129 | (2) |
| Part 9 Physical Intimacy |
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42 What, Where, and How Often? |
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133 | (2) |
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135 | (2) |
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137 | (3) |
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140 | (3) |
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Physical Intimacy: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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143 | (2) |
| Part 10 Emotional Intimacy |
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147 | (2) |
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149 | (2) |
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151 | (2) |
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49 Are You Good for Each Other? |
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153 | (3) |
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50 Are You Bad for Each Other? |
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156 | (3) |
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Emotional Intimacy: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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159 | (2) |
| Part 11 Special Situations |
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51 Marrying Someone in the Military |
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163 | (2) |
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165 | (2) |
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167 | (3) |
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55 Marrying Someone Significantly Older or Younger |
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173 | (2) |
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Special Situations: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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175 | (2) |
| Part 12 Your Wedding |
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177 | (20) |
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179 | (2) |
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58 Family, Guests, and Attendants |
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183 | (2) |
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185 | (2) |
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60 To Have and to...Hold On! |
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187 | (5) |
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192 | (3) |
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Your Wedding: Thoughts on Your Answers |
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195 | (2) |
| Part 13 Marriage Builders or Breakers |
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62 Living Together Before Marriage |
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199 | (3) |
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202 | (4) |
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206 | (3) |
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65 Reasons to Reconsider Marriage |
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209 | (6) |
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215 | (8) |
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67 Habits That Drive Couples Apart |
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223 | (6) |
| Epilogue: Final Thoughts |
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| Spousal Ten Commandments |
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