The NPR commentator and author of the best-selling Stick Figure describes her realization that she was prioritizing the wrong qualities in her search for a life partner, in an unstinting account that draws on the positive and negative responses to her 2008 Atlantic article. The NPR commentator describes her realization that she was prioritizing the wrong qualities in her search for a life partner, in an unstinting account that draws on the positive and negative responses to her 2008 Atlantic article. When Lori Gottlieb found herself forty and still single, she came to an uncomfortable realization. If so many of her friends were very happily married to good enough guys, the type of men who might not make you weak in the knees but made great partners and fathers, maybe she had been approaching her dating life completely wrong. If she hadnt found Mr. Right, maybe shed been focused on the wrong things. Could her Mr. Right have been, well, right in front of her all along? In the March 2008 issue of The Atlantic, she asked, Would you rather hold out for Prince Charming and risk that hell never show up, or be more realistic and share your life with a guy wholl make a good teammate in the trenches of family life? Lori Gottlieb argued for the latter. The furor that erupted was immediate, with coverage in media outlets as varied as Today, NPR, and The Wall Street Journal. Some accused her of setting feminism back decades; others spoke warmly of marriages in which love grew slowly over time. Men complained that women were too picky; women believed they were entitled to be picky. Clearly, she had touched a nerve. The most common response came from women who said that they couldnt seem to meet the right guy, and just werent feeling it with the nice guys theyd met. How important was it? How, they wondered, do you separate compromising from settling? In Marry Him, Lori decides to find out. Along the way, she talks to marital researchers, behavioral economists, neuropsychologists, sociologists, couples therapists, divorce lawyers, matchmakers, dating coaches, and clergy about the realities of the modern dating landscape. The result is an eye-opening, brutally honest, often funny, sometimes painful journey that culminates in a redefining of romance.
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